Helping One Twin Cope With Separation From the Other

by Nicole
(NC)

My twins are almost 3, and suddenly my little girl has developed separation anxiety when leaving her twin brother. Even when it's her decision not to stay where her twin is, she then starts screaming for him and crying. I've explained to her that he is staying (where ever it is) and that she gets to go do (what ever we're going to do). I tell her that he is okay and happy and when we'll be going to pick him up, but nothing seems to console her. What can I do to help her when she's not with her brother?

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Sep 14, 2011
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by: Anonymous

It is adorable and they do share a very special bond, it makes my heart melt when they say they're each others best friend. I just wish there was a way to help her get over this. I try to reassure her but she could care less what I'm saying lol. I really wanted not to treat them as "twins" all the time, I wanted them both to be independent and willing to spend one on one time with me, but there's been no such luck. Hoping, she will outgrow this soon. How old are your twins?
Sep 14, 2011
 I can't find my brother!
by: Anonymous

There is not much you can do about it. My twins (identical boys) are the same way still. They are fine if they know where each other is, but if they do not know, or can't find each other, you would think the world was about to end.

Twins have a unique bond, not like regular siblings. She will get better, but she will always "panic" if she is unsure of where he is.

I find this to be adorable, by the way!

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