Pregnant With Twins & Doin' It Alone...

by Sarah M.
(Sedalia, MO)

My names Sarah. I'm 19 yrs old and pregnant with boy/girl twins. I am currently 24 1/2 weeks. I am very excited and overwhelmed all at the same time. I don't have very much family support either. My mom just had a baby of her own and he's 7 months old... My sister is not really supportive, and all my other family lives in a different state. I'm not supposed to be walking as much as I do cause my doctor feels I'm stimulating preterm labor, but I really don't have much of a choice. Whenever anyone of them do decide to help me, they are complaining about it. So, I'm stuck doing things I shouldn't just to get things done. I live alone, and that's how it will be after birth. I would like for some advice on how to do all this alone..but don't know where to go for that. I know I'm not gonna be able to take care of 2 babies without some help.. but I can't see me givin' them up either. They are the only ones that can put a smile on me. Those little/big kicks make me happy when I'm down...and their pics too:) If there is anyway to get advice on how I can do this, I really need it. I pray every night, and keep God close, so maybe things will work out for me. These are my 1st children, and I'm preparing myself for them, cause my goal is to be the best mother I can be, and prove everyone wrong that think I can't do this. I really need some words of encouragement..anyone?

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Dec 07, 2019
 Same situation
by: Anonymous

Hey I'm 29 I have a 5 yr old girl and also 25 we weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins...
I'm I'm also doing it alone with not much support its very worrying how will I get my other child to school and things when I get really big. And after what will I do ..
But I do know one thing it will get easier and we were sent these angles to make our life better and because we can handle it.v
U can do it..
Everything will be OK.
Much love
Apr 22, 2018
 Same boat
by: Anonymous

I'm in a similarly crazy situation, Sarag. Im actually a transgender (female to male) man, 19, and just found out in expecting twins as well. O am not in a relationship and the father actually wanted me to abort them. Im only at 10 weeks but i know how rough it is already... Especially ALL that nausea! Just know that things will turn around for you. The universe has funny ways of making life work out for ya. Those kids will end up being the best thing that ever happened to you. :) best of luck.
Dec 28, 2016
 Stay strong!
by: Anonymous

Hi dear, glad to hear about your courageous story. I'm also pregnant with twins. I'm still on my first trimester. This is the hardest time period I have ever got in my life. My mother was died 6yrs ago. My father lives in my home country and I live with my husband in another country. I don't have anybody else except my husband. He is also working for 10hours per day. Therefore I don't have anybody to look after me. This time is extremely hard to spend. I wish If I had my mother with me this time. But I feel that God has given me these two babies in to my womb may be he knows that I am really stronger than I think. I believe there should be some kind of a special reason to conceive like this for me. As I believe everyone cannot be a mother for twins. It's such a wonderful blessing from god. So stay strong every time as much as you can. Because God is with you and every twin mother who is helpless. God Bless you!
May 23, 2011
 We're worried too..
by: Anonymous

I am not the mother - but the father writing. We have a 5 yr old boy and got twin girls who are now 2 months old. So far we have our mother in law who is helping us but she will leave in another month and half and we will be on our own. Issue is I have to leave for work and my wife will be on her own for the 10 hrs I will be away. Until we saw this blog we were considering other options such as Nanny or day care but we have a very limited budget and hard to find anybody within our budget. Reading the responses we feel encouraged that we might just be able to do this on our own..
Jan 10, 2011
 21 yr old mom with 2 year old twins
by: Stacey T.

hi hun, my name is Stacey, I live in independence, mo. im almost 22, with 2 1/2 year old boy/girl twins. I very very much feel for you. I was left alone when I was 2 months pregnant. had to drop out of college, and do it all on my own. it was the absolute hardest thing ive ever done, and no body can possibly understand exactly what youre going through unless theyve been in your situation..i used to hate people trying to understand when they had no idea. my family hated me for being single, 19 and pregnant. it was so hard. i worked full time at crummy jobs to support my kids, and ended up paying most of it to daycare. it does get better. just dont get too caught up in how hard it is and try to enjoy your kids being little. about a year ago, i met a wonderful guy who treats me and my twins so well. we're getting married in 1 month. it does get easier, things will get better, and you will have the family youve always wanted. stay strong, its hard, but it is worth it! if you ever wanna talk, email me- fabliverpoolfan@hotmail.com. id do anything to help, cause i know what youre going through. congrats on your babies!
Dec 16, 2010
 Lonely Mom 2 Be
by: Anonymous

24 weeks must be the panic google week! I am also 24 weeks pregnant with identical boys! I know they are a rare blessing but I fear I wont be able to give them what they deserve being a single mom.... I also lost my job due to job performance during my first trimester And my boyfriend is younger and still needs to "live life". I dont want to force him into our lives but I know I wont be able to raise the boys by myself, I've never even changed a diaper!! He's going to resent me and I'm afraid it will just make things worse for the boys! My family has practically disowned me because I'm not married and I really feel I'm alone right now when I know I shouldn't be. I guess this will all make me stronger and a better mom... The stress and uncertainity of it all is a major bummer
Aug 20, 2010
 i have identical twins
by: Anonymous

hey my twins were born on 6/4/10..identical girls. although i have my boyfriend who lives with me he doesnt do alot and i am constantly doin everythin by myself. it is hard work but so rewarding. all it takes is for one of my babies to smile or giggle and i know that all the hard work i do and the sleepless nights is worth it. dont give up you will need some help in the beginning but once you are in a rountine it is possible i promise you.
Feb 18, 2010
 I'm in the same boat as you
by: Linda

Hi Sarah.

I'm Linda, I am 24 years old and i am expecting twin girls identical. I am 26 weeks as of February 14th and I want you to know that you arent alone in this.

I had a boyfriend who i cared about and our relationship turned for the worst when i told him at 11 weeks preggo. he booked a flight for another state, told me the babies weren't his and that he wanted nothing to do with me. I was devistated but i kept trudging along. I got threats from his parents telling me that they'd take my children away. I cried. My mom said that i was ruining her life and she is too young to be a grandma. My dad and stepmom lived in an entirely different state. I live alone and i am on partial bed rest. I cannot even work because i cannot be on my feet for more then 3 hours at a time. things get mighty boring alone for me. I look at their little kicks and i know that they are waiting for the right time to come out.

I know that your twins are going to be loved and cared for and you are going to be the best mom in the world.

if you want to talk you can find me on windows Live or you can just send me an email. Bedburyl@hotmail.com

sometimes the worst situations make the best people and i know that this will be good for all of us single mothers of twins.

Linda
Nov 22, 2009
 Admirable...
by: Anonymous

I think it is wondwrful that you are being so positive about everything. I'm just about 20 weeks along with twin boy/girl and so excited. Like you my family is also far away as I live in colorado but my family is in north carolina and wyoming. My father lives in Wyoming but he is not supportive at all with this pregnancy. I moved to be closer to the father of my babies and do not know anyone here so am feeling super lonely as the only person I have is my boyfriend, which is not always that grand. I admire you for stepping up and taking this on yourself. I'm so afraid also to do all this and scared of everything. You must have alot more strength than I and you are going to be a wonderful mother.
Nov 18, 2009
 Twins
by: Nikki Fenters

I am 29 and had my twin boy/girl on 2/6/2008. I will tell you that you will need some help. I am being honest, because I can tell you have God and faith on your side. There will be times it feels exhausting, especially feeding times (sometimes) and you feel like all you ever do is change diapers. I came on here to look for some advice about 2 year old twins and saw your post. I wanted to praise you for your strength and love for your twins, because what you to go seek all kinds of services for yourself. Go to the DFC and go to your Community Action Program for Daycare assistance, etc... Remember WIC will help you with your formula and you need to think through all your trips before hand since you are going places alone. The grocery store will become tricker. You can't push a stroller and push a cart and your can't put both carseats in your cart cause they there is no where for your food. Plan ahead as much as possible. Seek your church family out. I have four children all together and my other girls have been somewhat of a help, but when people (even some relatives) they hear twins and babysitter in the same sentence they run. It is dread for them. I only got tired of comments by ones that say "Oh, I just don't know how you do it." I just do! You can too. Keep you head on straight, don't give into frustration and always take your deep breaths. And when you do have a "Why me?" question, just remember God gave you these children for a reason and they are a gift no matter how stinky, pukey and grouchy they get. :)
Oct 28, 2009
 GOOD for you
by: Anonymous

hello there wow your a very brave girl i am also pregnant with twins. you are doing great do far i am only 24 so i am young as well. you are the only onewho can love those babies like you will . you made your decesion dont let anyone take that from you. for this od will grant you happiness and security, dont worry pray for reassusrance i have and god has given it. YOu will be a wonderful mother..... dont listen to negative thisngs ve heard alot too. YOU are blessed god would never give u more then u could handle congratulations girly!!!!!
Oct 10, 2009
 Wow what an amazing women U R
by: Dawn

I just have to say I am proud of you for sticking it out. In todays world there is a tendency to quit when things are tough but you are doing all you know to do and I know things will work out if you put your trust in God.

With men it is impossible; but to God all things are possible.
- Matthew 19:26

I suggest if you don't have a home church to try and find one. I know that this is a tough thing to do, but I also know that there are so many people who care and are good people out there willing to help those who are in need. I am pregnant with boy/girl twins and have 8 kids at home already. People ask me all the time how I can do what I do and my response is Only with Gods help. Though it won't make it easy you will at least know that He is always there. He will never leave or forsake you. Please believe that I am speaking with a heart full of love for you. I don't mean to sound preachy, but I do know the difference in doing it alone and doing it with God by your side. I am so sorry that you family is not supportive but just keep doing the right things and praying with a humble heart to God. I believe the prayers wont go unanswered. You will be in my prayers..please feel free to email if you want to imamaddcow12@yahoo.com I would love to chat and be there if I can for you in any way...
Sep 06, 2009
 Everythings going to be ok. I just no it.!
by: Mattie

Hi.. I just want you to know that everythings going to be ok, and although many people may tell you that, I want you to keep in mind that through God you can do anything.
I am a single mother to an 18 mth old daughter and am expecting twins in january. I have done almost everything on my own and my ex-boyfriend has been in and out of our lives since before my daughter was born. Then in april I got pregnant again of course with him, and in august I found out im having twin boys. I live by myself and I'm atleast 40 miles away from my family. I'm trying to go to school and take care of everything. I just know that it's going to be hard, but I also know that God is on my side. Obviously, he wants me to be a mother. That has to be our purpose to a point you know? I just know that everything is going to be okay and everything will work out day by day, step by step. Keep your head up girl, you have your head on straight and Im glad to hear someone else is as headstrong to take care of their children as I am expecially being young.
Aug 31, 2009
 You can do this...
by: Renee

You have good a great head on your shoulders. And I know that this is very rough... But you are creating the love and family that you need and want. I was a single mother with my son. It was tough.. But one thing I kept telling myself. Is one day at a time.. One hour at a time.. One minute at a time... That always helped me through... Your babies will love and appreate all your hard work and love. Babies are a gift. They make life sooo much better... *** Hugs***
Aug 30, 2009
 a friend in need x
by: Anonymous

Hi sarah im 25 and a single mum to twin girls who are now 10 months, all i can say is be strong, determined and most of all very organized youl be fine, just wait till you see the little faces of your 2 special babies, you just seem 2 cope, just remember god blessed you with twins not everybody is that lucky, take care of yourself & stay strong for the 2 lives that are growing inside you, hope this helps, loads of love 2 you & bump, xxxx
Aug 29, 2009
 Good Job Momma to be!
by: Christy

I'm so proud of you! Your so strong! I'm having twin boys here pretty soon. I'm 30wks with two boys. I'm also a twin. I have a twin brother. Your story inspires me GREATLY! God Bless You! I know I can't do anything without God! I'm married. I have a seven yr. old girl, a three yr. old boy, and a one yr. old girl, with twins right around the corner! I have a little help from my mom and sister, (every now and then), but I feel like you in a way. Stuff needs to get done regardless. Theres no other way and no other help. My husband thinks I can do more than I actually can and I know I can't. But the one thing that keeps me going is knowing that God will not give you more than you can handle! He knew in the beginning that you were the right person for these little babies and He will help you all the way through, regardless of the trials you will face. One thing He's proven to me is that He IS faithful!!! God Bless You and God be with you through it all! I will keep you in my prayers! Don't give up! And thank you for inspiring me, you'll never know how much!!!!!
heres my email: jeremy.gomez@ymail.com
Aug 29, 2009
 u could do it !!!
by: Mirna

hi, ur right about the fact that is going to be hard!! n is sad to know ur family is not giving u support. dont let that bring u down, u need to be strong for ur babies. Im 23 and i have 4 children! i had my 1st daughter(shes now 7 years old) when i was 17 years old and i was also a single mom,but i was very lucky to have my mothers help. At the age of 20 I meet my soon to be husband (the man I love with all my heart) and after a year of dating i got pregnant with my second daughter(shes now 16 months)when she was 7 months i got pregnant with my twin boys and they r now 4 weeks old! A lot of people think im crazy for having 4 children @ 23 years a age but im very happy. i know what it is to be a single mom and i also know how much work could be taking care of twins but if you feel strong and u want to have ur babies dont let anyone take that away from you. try to find support groups out there n they will help u find daycare,parenting classes jobs ex....if u want to talk or have any type of questions about the twin pregnancy or how is it day by day taking care of twins? u could e-mail me at joychacon19@hotmail.com -Take care of your self and keep ur head up!! :)

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