Are You Sure You Can Handle Two?

by Katie
(California)

I was talking with my sister shortly after I found out I was having twins and she said "I'm excited that you are pregnant but can you handle two babies?" I replied, no we are going to see who cries less and then keep that one. Then I got a little more serious and said, We weren't expecting two but that's what we're having and we'll be fine.

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Aug 03, 2011
 not offended
by: Anonymous

We shouldn't be offended by comments such as 'you will have your hands full' or 'it's going to be so hard' etc. This is just people trying to put themselves in our shoes, and feeling empathy. What is so offensive about it? I'm 31weeks with twins and hear it all the time, though it always makes me feel amazed at how sympathetic people are. And often these comments are followed by, 'if you need any help let me know'

They don't mean harm by these words, they just want you to be aware that they know what you are going through.

Feb 03, 2011
 I don't know any different
by: Anonymous

I have 5 month old twin girls and no other children. When people come up to me and ask the usual "How do you manage?", I reply with "I don't know any differently. This is MY normal".
Jul 16, 2010
 Keep your thoughts to yourself!
by: Twin with twins

I wasn't even planning 1 baby, nevermind falling pregnant with twins! But I find most people are too self absorbed to even think about what someone else may be going through and so proceed to make comments about your twin pregnancy which makes you want to punch them in the mouth. "Ooh, rather you than me.... You're going to have your hands full.... will you be able to handle it....you're going to be so tired........" Like, no people, I haven't thought of any of that!!! I'm scared and anxious and ya'll are just making it worse!!! I am 17 weeks pregnant now and very excited about my girls, but the first few weeks are tough when you're thinking about your life doing a total flip flop. SO please people, think about what you say before you say it.... unless you are part of the select few who are in fact saying it on purpose to upset the mother cos you're jealous!!!
Feb 28, 2010
 Dumb question at church
by: the mom

I was 5 months along, and not sure if we were expecting twins, and many people at church asked, "What are you going to do if it's twins?" Have them, raise them, love them, care for them, nurture them...what the crap do you think!?
Feb 26, 2010
 same song, different day
by: blessedx4

OH MY! If I got a penny/nickel for everytime someone said... "You're going to have your hands full" or "how are you going to handle twins?"--- I WOULD BE SOO RICH! lol... I'm sure we all would be from the daily comments!
We are the chosen ones- double blessed and we WILL be fine!

GOOD LUCK LADIES!!! Twin Girls EDD 6/12/10
Jan 24, 2010
 "maybe you could take one for me til I get the hang of it?"
by: MaryAnne

I am 15 weeks with identical twin (my first kids besides our two large dogs and our cat and they happent to be honeymoon babies)and I have to say, that as soon as the words come out of my mouth, everyone has a comment. I was surprised at how many people decided that the best thing to say was something ominous or intimidating like "how are you gonna handle 2 at once?" or "Gosh it is hard with just ONE I can't imagine TWO!"...Really people? Nothing better to say? The worst thing is a lot of the ones who have felt the need to say these things are actulaly newer mothers who you would think would remember what it is like to be a little overwhelmed with the whole situation! Luckily, I have lost my "nice" filter and have been able to make good natured smart jokes back to them to end the conversations so at least we can both get a laugh out of how poorly thought out those comments are when a simple 'congratulations' would suffice and make my life a little easier and more pleasant :)
Nov 23, 2009
 Positive!!!
by: Ali_fr_cali

When I first found out I was prego with TWINS, my initial feeling was anxiety because I already had a 3 yr old girl and a 2 yr old boy at home so when family, friends, and strangers made comments and asked question such as these, my anxiety just built up. I am now 32 wks. prego with two boys!!! I am no longer anxious (only to hold them and love them). My husband and I recently ran into a very sweet total stranger while shopping who reminded me of something I already knew..She said "Wow TWINS!! What a blessing! God only gives them to those who can handle them! He will never give us more than we can bear!" I say AMEN!!!
Sep 30, 2009
 Seriously ladies...does this question/comment ever stop?
by: Anonymous

I am already tired of hearing comments like "boy you are going to have your hands full" and I am still pregnant! I just told my husband there is some fascination with twins...everyone has a comment. I have a 5 yr old and a 4 yr old both girls and I am expecting twin boys in Dec. I agree with all of you...we will all make it work! That is how life works, you deal with things as they come along. I am just glad to know I am not alone in this world. Thanks for sharing ladies!
Sep 12, 2009
 I've got Twins & a Twingle...
by: Sum1Else

When my twins were babies, I encountered a lady in a store that said to me... Oh you have twins, how horrible for you. :-O I really didn't know what to say! I think they were 4-6 weeks old. I just looked at her and walked away. LOL
Aug 16, 2009
 that has been one of the most annoying questions yet!!
by: Anonymous

i am almost 36 weeks pregnant with twin girls and aside from people always asking me when im due (like i dont already know how huge i look!) i am really sick of getting the are you sure you can handle two? question.what the heck are they thinking its not like i have much of a choice i mean you get what cards you are delt in life you have to make the best of it. so can we please stop talking about how hard its gonna be and talk about something more positive!
Aug 14, 2009
 unknown
by: Anonymous

I'm soooo sick of the "wow-you're going to be busy-hope you're ready for that." comments! No, I have no idea what it will be like and I don't know how I will do it, but I do have confidence in myself and BELIEVE that we will make it work! :)
Aug 12, 2009
 I agree
by: Anonymous

It's amazing what you can do with two! So many people are shocked by the fact that I take them grocery shopping by myself while my husband is at work etc. I say you can do the same with two as you can with one, it just may take a little longer. But I agree, my hands may be full, but my heart is fuller!
Aug 12, 2009
 LOL
by: Anonymous

I always tell people taking care of my twin boys is the EASY part...it's cooking and cleaning while taking care of them is the hard part.
and when someone says "you must have your hands full" I say "MY HEART IS FULLER"!!!!!!!
Aug 11, 2009
 LOL
by: Anonymous

My thoughts exactly. It's okay, as long as we have faith in ourselves, thats all we need! Good luck to you!
Aug 11, 2009
 ugh we all get the same question
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel my mother inlaw keeps asking me the same thing

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