So Self Conscious Now...

by Kristy
(NY)

My name is Kristy and I am 24 years old. I had my twins a year ago. They were mine and my husband's first children.

When I gave birth, my daughter weighed 6lbs 11oz and my son was 7lbs 4oz. I'm only 4'11 so as you can imagine I was HUGE! Even though I didn't get any stretch marks, my skin is just so loose and saggy now and I am SOOO self conscious! I won't even let my husband look at me naked! He hasn't seen my body in over a year...I feel like I'm going to turn him off.

I know it's really all in my head because he tells me all the time that I have nothing to worry about and that no matter what I look like he'll always love me. I mean, on one hand I look in the mirror and HAAATTEE what I look like, but then I look at my babies and just thank God for blessing me with these amazing children! I just wanted to see if anyone has any advice to give me on how to get over this! Thanks for your help :)

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Aug 22, 2012
 I understand
by: Mary

I was really self conscious. So, I had a tummy tuck... not lipo but just got the skin removed. I am also 4'11" and didn't have twins but my skin got really saggy. I am now pregnant again (didn't think I would when I got my tummy tuck. So be sure you don't want anymore precious bundles before you make that decision) Also, I have had c-sections and that didn't hurt as much as the tummy tuck. You just have to decide for yourself though. I will probably do it again so I guess I am vain. :D I tried everything from working out two hours a day every day to eating really healthy and nothing worked.
Feb 08, 2011
 You are not alone
by: Anonymous

Hello, I want to let you know you are not alone! I was in GREAT shape prior to my pregnancy. Yoga/pilates and everything and now my skin just hangs!! HATE it but keep telling myself that I have two healthy babies and my husband loves me for me. I am sure you husband understands. Talking about it is the best thing and don't be hard on yourself. I know it is hard to not critize ourselves but keep realizing why your body is the way it is. You grew two babies! Not a small tasks. I can relate.
Dec 12, 2010
 keep your head up!
by: Anonymous

Hey kristy I just wanted to tell you that I totally know how you feel! You have to just keep your head up and kinda just get over it and accept yourself the way you are now. You have your healthy babies and your loving husband...look at the positives! Hope it helps!

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